FAQs

ARE WFM FOUNDERS, AS WELL AS ITS MEMBERS AND ASSOCIATES, ALL OF ONE MIND?

Only insofar as the needs of men and genuine equality between the sexes are concerned. The founders certainly don’t agree on everything re gender relations—the subject’s too big. What we do agree on is that men’s voices must count as much as women’s, and that American women have had the microphone long enough. To move the pendulum back to the center, we need to hear from, and focus on, men.

WHAT’S HAPPENING WITH MEN AND BOYS?

Today, millions of American boys are languishing academically. Boys are far less likely than girls to feel connected to school, to earn good grades, or to attend college. In our nation’s schools, girls routinely outperform boys. More boys than girls are suspended from school. More are held back and drop out. Boys are three times as likely as girls to be enrolled in special education programs and four times as likely to be diagnosed with ADHD. More boys than girls are involved in crime, alcohol and drugs. Boys even commit suicide at higher rates than girls.

When boys become college men, they enter a female-dominated environment that’s skeptical of their mere existence. Colleges are rife with romantic and sexual liaisons, which is risky for a male. If a woman regrets the sexual encounter, she can easily cry rape. Not only is the guy presumed guilty,  he’s screwed if it gets as far as a college tribunal.

College men are also restricted from competing in the sports they love, thanks to Title IX—the 1972 law that argued for equal opportunity but morphed into a demand for equal outcomes. This means men’s sports get cut to allow for the law’s proportionality rule that demands equal participation among males and females. So if not enough women sign up for, say, wrestling, there goes the wrestling team.

After graduation, men enter yet another female dominated arena: the workforce. Here again men must tread waters carefully. Though the workforce may seem like a logical place to meet women, a man must watch out. If a woman feels uncomfortable in any way when a male colleague asks her out, she can claim he created a hostile environment. “Sexual initiatives by men toward women below them at work are the most frequent definition of sexual harassment. When it works, it’s called courtship. When it doesn’t, it’s called harassment,” writes Warren Farrell in The Myth of Male Power.

Should men become husbands and fathers—and many men today are choosing not to—they don’t stand a chance in a court of law if and when they get divorced. Family court judges are hopelessly biased against fathers. Of the two million restraining orders issued each year—85 percent against men—half don’t include any evidence of violence but rely on vague complaints made without proof or evidence. And once an order is issued, it becomes nearly impossible for a father to retain or regain custody or even get to see his own children. “Right under our noses, massive systemic injustice is being visited upon fathers, threatening the very fundamentals of family, society, and democracy,” writes Todd M. Aglialoro.

We hear a lot in the media about the rise of women and the decline of good men. What we don’t hear about is why it’s happening or what we can do about it. The truth is, there’s a logical reason why men are dropping out of college and choosing not to marry in record numbers. They’re reacting rationally, and justly, to the male bashing they’ve endured for decades.

WHAT’S HAPPENING BETWEEN THE SEXES AS A RESULT OF THE GENDER WAR?

Gender relations have never been more tenuous. According to Pew Research Center, the share of women ages eighteen to thirty-four that say having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in their lives has risen nine percentage points since 1997— from 28 percent to 37 percent.

For men, the opposite occurred. The share voicing this opinion has dropped, from 35 percent to 29 percent.

There are many reasons love has become so elusive—materialism, the decline in religion, the desire for immediate gratification—but the most significant phenomenon to rupture marriage was the sexual revolution. Women (and eventually, men) were sold a script about sex and gender roles that was predicated on two main ideas: that American women are victims of a patriarchy designed to hold women down, and that there are no real differences between women and men.

Both are wrong, yet the widespread acceptance of these myths has caused untold damage to relationships, family and society.

ARE YOU A CONSERVATIVE OR LIBERAL GROUP?

The media have been known to typecast WFM’s founders any way that suits them, but who we are differs greatly from what they would have you believe. If we were to box ourselves in, we’d probably call ourselves right-leaning libertarians. Or classic liberals. Or moderate conservatives.

But the truth is, we hate boxes. We’re just committed to the truth. End of story.

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